Resources

Reading Lists

For Parents:

The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics, 2nd Edition, by R. Lundy Bancroft, G. Silverman and Daniel Ritchie

Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse by Lundy Bancroft

For Children:

My Body Belongs to Me From My Head to My Toes

Once I was Very Very Scared

A Terrible Thing Happened

Alcoholism & Domestic Violence

There is a correlation between substance abuse and intimate partner violence (IPV). If you think your partner may have a drinking problem, you can find help at Al-Anon, a group formed to help families and friends of alcoholics. https://al-anon.org/

DocuSAFE Evidence Collection App

DocuSAFE is NNEDV's (National Network to End Domestic Violence) free app designed to help survivors document all types of harassment, stalking and abuse that they are experiencing.

Survivors can use their documentation to identify patterns in abusive behaviors to help with safety planning or to share with others if seeking legal assistance.

Download DocuSAFE in the App Store or on Google Play.

California Courts

• California Courts
• San Francisco County Superior Court
• San Mateo County Superior Court
• Contra Costa County Superior Court
  
• Santa Clara County Superior Court
• Alameda County Superior Court

Free or Low-Cost Legal Services

• Legal Aid Society of San Mateo County
• Bay Area Legal Aid
• Legal Services for Children

Domestic Violence Restraining Order Clinics

• San Francisco
• San Mateo
• Contra Costa

Support for Victims of Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence

• CORA (Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse)
• NCVC (National Center for Victims of Crime)
• CPEDV (California Partnership to End Domestic Violence)
• CALCASA (California Coalition Against Sexual Assault)
• Santa Clara Shelters and Support
• San Francisco Domestic Violence Consortium (DVC) Agencies

Help for Parents and Children

• Helping your children through the divorce process
• What should I know about divorce and custody?
• Family Services of San Francisco
  
• Child and Family Web Guide
  
• Kids and the Law
• Kids' Turn
  
• National Association of Child Care Resource and Referral Agencies
  
• Parents Leadership Institute
• Sleep help for children

Supervised Visitation Support

• California Statewide Supervised Visitation Directory
• Alameda County
• Contra Costa County
• Marin County
  
• San Francisco County
  
• San Mateo County
• Santa Clara County

Other Family Law Resources

• Our Family Wizard (online service for co-parents: timeshare calendars, message system, etc.)
• California Judicial Council online family law forms and pleadings
• Department of Child Support Services online child support calculator
• Coparenter

Associations of Family Law Professionals (with Attorney Directories)

• Association of Certified Family Law Specialists (ACFLS)
• American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML)
• Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC)
• Northern California Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAMLNOCAL)

Collaborative Law Professionals

• San Francisco County
• San Mateo County
• Santa Clara County
• Alameda and Contra Costa County
• Marin County